Black Tie Optional Dresses

As a preliminary matter, it should never be required to write the place on the invitation itself. People will understand what they are supposed to wear on the formality of the invitation and by word of mouth. So whatever you choose to go with, you should be aware that this is a false label of not writing this to the invitation. If you feel you must understand is a bit more acceptable to write on the receipt card rather than the invitation itself.

In addition, if you write "Black Tie" on invitations, which means that black tie is required, not an option (ie, men should wear tuxedos and women must wear long dresses). If you want black tie optional, you must put "black tie optional" or "evening dress." (Some etiquette books will tell you that the black tie optional is also incorrect, but I think most people know what that means). At an event or a formal black tie optional, men can wear a dark suit instead of a tux. Women can wear long dresses or cocktail dresses fancy.

Unless you run a crowd of high society who attend black tie events, I imagine your guests will be hampered by a mandate black tie (especially if they think black tie is required). Most people do not have a tux that trail, then attend a black tie event they would need to rent or buy. That could cost $ 75-200 dollars, depending on what you rent and where you can rent from. In addition, many women can not have a party dress long train, then they would need to buy something as well (I only see two of my friends who have formal wear, and work both public relations and attend galas regularly). Add the cost of attending a wedding in general, and you could attend your wedding cost prohibitive for some of your guests. At the end of the day, do you ensure that 100% of your guests are in tuxedos and evening gowns but twenty people you love can not come because they could not afford the ticket airline, hotel, gift, and a tuxedo or a dress? Unless it's for a family member or close friend, I generally decline an invitation to a black tie event because the extra expense is more that I'm willing to pay for DH and I attend a wedding. I do not have an evening gown, so if DH and I had to attend a black tie event next week he would cost at least $ 75 for rental tux and perhaps another $ 200 for a dress for me in addition to everything we 're already spent on a gift and travel.

On the issue of the register - if you do not have a website, and word of mouth is the way to spread the word. Attendees must know a person involved in the marriage, if you, your bridal party, or one of your families so they find someone to ask. If there are those guests who do not know who they might ask, why should they be invited??